Decolonizing Sexuality Means Taking My Penis Out of It

And other lessons I learned from a Black Tantra feminist group

Photo of a man’s back by Ksenia Chernaya

I was nine years old when I first heard the classic New York greeting “Suck my dick!” screamed into the air. My friend Devin was standing outside of the 1111 Ocean Avenue building steps where we left the babysitter to walk to school. He belted it while holding a nylon…